Thursday, March 29, 2012

Wait for the right time .....

If it is not truthful and not helpful, don't say it.
If it is truthful and not helpful, don't say it.
If it is not truthful and helpful, don't say it.
If it is truthful and helpful, wait for the right time.
-Buddha


If it is truthful and helpful, wait for the right time.
.......Wait for the right time......


When is the right time?

I was thinking that the ‘right time’ was about the other person & their readiness.
Now I see it is about my readiness!
Before I give advice as the Buddha tells us it must be truthful & helpful.
Now can I be sure that it is truthful & at what level of truth are we working on?
Is it helpful? Can I really know what another needs?
If I answer “yes” I will need to go deeper (as demonstrated in The Work of Byron Katie)

A good question is:
Can I be absolutely sure it is true that this person needs this advice/truth or help?

The right time is when:
  • What I say, to be truthful & helpful, has no vested interest or outcome for me
  • What I say doesn't manipulate the other to support & feed my ego
  • Saying it creates no charge in me. That is, does not raise my passion or personality
  • I have lived my own advice/truth & help for a minimum of 5 years say.
Blessings
Fara
P.S On Saturday May 26th I am offering a workshop on The Work of Byron Katie.

1 comment:

  1. I would have to say i give advice unsolicited and way too often...like a junkie getting her fix...this 'prayer' certainly cools it all down and returns 'the making' or 'reality' back to the right place for me.
    What a relief!...
    thanks Fara x

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