If it is truthful and not helpful, don't say it.
If it is not truthful and helpful, don't say it.
If it is truthful and helpful, wait for the right time. -Buddha
If it is truthful and helpful, wait for the right time.
.......Wait for the right time......
When is the right time?
I was thinking that the ‘right time’ was about the other person & their readiness.
Now I see it is about my readiness!
Before I give advice as the Buddha tells us it must be truthful & helpful.
Now can I be sure that it is truthful & at what level of truth are we working on?
Is it helpful? Can I really know what another needs?
If I answer “yes” I will need to go deeper (as demonstrated in The Work of Byron Katie)
A good question is:
Can I be absolutely sure it is true that this person needs this advice/truth or help?
The right time is when:
- What I say, to be truthful & helpful, has no vested interest or outcome for me
- What I say doesn't manipulate the other to support & feed my ego
- Saying it creates no charge in me. That is, does not raise my passion or personality
- I have lived my own advice/truth & help for a minimum of 5 years say.
P.S On Saturday May 26th I am offering a workshop on The Work of Byron Katie.